Monthly Archives: January 2013

January Bucket List Completions

1. Ice skating at Centennial Park

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2. Snow Mountain at Stone Mountain

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3. Hike Stone Mountain

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Just kidding, we took the Sky Lift up

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Mini mes. I told Sara that watching after these two girls would be earily similar to how it will be when we have kids. Yikes!

Looking forward to marking off more things on my bucket list in February!

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So many wonderful changes going on in my life right now that I am super excited about. So blessed!!!!

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Friday Funnies

AHHH! I’ve been so busy working my booty off that I almost forgot about posting today!!

Check out what I did.

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those areas were slammed full of boxes…

 

 

Here are some personal funnies that I have.

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You will only get this if you A) are a Braves fan, or B) follow MLB

I was texting with my boss yesterday helping him out with flight info since he was out of town. This auto correct made me laugh for an hour.

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Once again Miss Taylor has managed to make me laugh, but then again it really doesn’t take much.

This post on who was having the best week ever. #1 being: Fake Girlfriends

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Coming in 2nd, not first, like he prefers: Lance Armstrong. Her commentary on this whole post had me laughing. The news about Elin & Tiger was something I hadn’t heard, but Adele exposing Taylor’s mean side was pretty dead on. I too think that she’s really just a mean girl.

Her Dear Mittens letter cracked me up. I love my Repubs but that post had me dying.

This picture.. this will be my friend Sara in several years! hahaha

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Tattoo Removal: Session 1

Back in October I bought a Living Social deal for laser tattoo removal. It expires in April so I figured I should suck it up and get my first session out of the way. Today was my first appointment. I wasn’t sure what to expect other than pain.

About a month ago, I was getting a facial and I mentioned to my friend that I wanted a small sun spot removed. She told me she could zap it and that it would go away. I thought, okay what the hell.. lets do it! Well, thank God I only had one and it was small. What she called a “zap” felt more like electricity on my face. ON. MY. FACE. I yelled. I jumped and screamed from the shock (literally) of pain. After that, I can say that I absolutely will not be visiting any tanning beds and that I will bathe in sun screen from now on. It’s not like I get dark any way. Dang fair skin.

Once in the back room at the laser center, my tech put a cold pack on my lower back and told me she would be back in a few minutes. I didn’t really feel like the pack was super cold, so I pressed it onto my skin for the time period she was gone. Before she came in the room my skin almost felt like it was burning and it was very red from the cold. I figured that should work because I knew I wanted it to be as painless as possible. I asked her what kind of pain I was going to experience due to my “skin zap” ordeal. I wanted to know how much pain and what it would feel like. She told me that it had been described to her as grease popping on your skin when you are cooking.

Grease. Popping. On. Skin.

In the area where your tattoo is located. For about a full minute or two, depending on how much space your tattoo takes up. Yeah. I would say that grease popping on your skin repeatedly for one – two full minutes is very accurate. Ho. Ly. Mother of baby Jesus. That machine is the real deal. Luckily for me my tattoo is small and since I’ve had it for 10 years, it has faded a lot. The tech told me she thought I would only need 3, maybe 4 more laser sessions. Thank God! Luckily I have another 4-6 weeks to allow my skin to blister/itch/flake before I submit myself to pain again. I’ll post pictures throughout the process if you’re interested.

Don’t Call it a Comeback

It’s funny when you review old posts and you think to yourself…

YES!

I was SO sure of everything. Myself. My decision. My faith that I was doing the right thing.

What happened to that girl? Why didn’t she listen to her head? How did I get to where I am now? Why didn’t I stick to my guns? Funny how things seem so much more clear after time.

See also, Break.

Sometimes, I think it takes you falling to your knees to be able to stand up tall. At least for me this is true.

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You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could’ve, would’ve happened …. or you can leave the pieces on the floor and move on.

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Sweet Proposal – Vote For My Friend

Tonight I was uploading a picture from the weekend on Facebook when I saw that a guy I’ve known for several years show up in my news feed. I met Justin through a friend of a friend around 2005-2006. Justin is an amazing person. I have always admired him. Not only is he very easy on the eyes, but his outspoken love for God makes him that much more attractive. Any one that meets him can tell he’s not your average Joe. We used to call him Crest because of his Ryan Seacrest looks and that mega watt smile.

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Any way, the post I saw was him asking for people to vote for him and his fiance to win a contest for a 30K wedding on Lake Lanier. They made it to the final 3 out of 500 applicants. So, I’m asking that you register and vote for them. You can vote one time a day and voting ends January 31, 2013.

Check out his proposal video.

 

To vote for them, click HERE.

Prepare to Swoon

Remeber this post? Well, I came across something else.

 

Wow. I want that. I want someone to say sweet things like that to me, not just on my wedding day, but every day. I want to never question his love. I need to be shown love, and told… I’m like that and I truly believe that I need someone just like that. 🙂

If the video is not showing up, go here.

Trouble Trouble Trouble

This week has been interesting, to say the least.

A friend of mine confided in me thoughts of suicide. That alone was enough to stop me in my tracks. There were other things shared that day too. It’s a tough spot to be in. There are all these questions..what do I do, do I tell anyone, obviously I need to pray, how do I help, can I help, if I don’t tell anyone and this person doesn’t do anything about it how will I feel if somethings happens, do I get parents involved? The only solution I have come up with is to be there, and to say prayers.

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Dealing with my dad’s stuff is never fun. It’s even less fun when my sister calls me at work yelling because she isn’t smart enough can’t figure out what to do in a particular situation. Very frustraiting because #1 I am trying to work #2 yelling is NOT going to help. Which is why…..

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I sent that to Sara and Ashley yesterday. Sara’s response was “That’s how {insert her last name}’s see it!! You ARE family! Ashley’s response was “Awe! Thanks for being my sis!” 🙂

Earlier in the month I text Sara’s mom to tell her and her husband thank you for my Christmas gifts. I received the sweetest text. My heart literally smiled.

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I am SO blessed to have them in my life!!!

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Friday Funnies

1. My friend Amber and I were texting back and forth earlier this week. I had asked her what a good hot tea was from Starbucks, since I was feeling bad. She told me two teas to try so I asked which one she thought would be better. She replied with, “They are waaay different. The zen refresh would prob be the best for you being dick.” then, “hahahahahah sick!!!” oh man, auto correct, you never fail to make me laugh.

2. My friend Sara and I have the same sense of humor. I sent her this picture of ke$ha from a magazine earlier this week. I said, “thhhhhhats why she says ‘I like your beard’ at the end of that song!” I told her I thought we could be friends with ke$ha because of her carefree attitude and sweet rap style. I told her that she could be $ara. She said her name does look pretty gangsta like that, so I told her that my real name was gangasta enough. She did find a way to incorporate a symbol though. Pretty funny. (Maybe this is one of those things that you either have to be there for, or know us?)

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Maybe next week will be funnier!

Friday Funnies

I decided to post each Friday things that made me laugh over the week. Hopefully I can start this and keep it up, at least for a year? We shall see!

On Monday I got The Daily Tay’s post, Resolutions You Should Have Made. She did a celebrity version and the one that cracked me up was Taylor Swift. Taylor, you should make a resolution to steal Kanye’s baby the second the doctor places it in his arms and proclaim, this belongs to Ray J!

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2. Monday my friend Sara and I went ice skating. We were trying to figure out if we wanted to watch the football game before ice skating, or if we wanted to watch the game one night, and the next night go skating. As we were texting back and forth she asked who was playing. I told her UGA. She wrote me back and told me that they had already played. OHHHHHH YEAHHHH… No wonder the guys looked at me funny when I told two of them they should pull for UGA since they both went to school there. …hahahahahaha  I told them about it the next day and they both said they thought I was being sarcastic. LOL

3. After ice skating we hit up a bar to watch the football game. When we were leaving down town we kept running into roads where no left turn was allowed. We needed to turn left to get back to our side of town. We finally approached a road that let us turn left. So we needed to make another left to head in the right direction. The next intersection we approached said “NO LEFT TURN”. I started laughing at the circumstance and told Sara the sign might as well have said, “HAHA Tricked ya!”

4. While driving in the ghetto since we were lost, we approached a gas station. There were several signs on a fence along the wall to the building. I started laughing and Sara asked what I was laughing at. I told her, “that sign says ‘NECKS'”. So random. The closer we got to the sign I saw that it actually said V Necks but the “V” was above the word necks so I didn’t see it. Again, we were about to pee our pants from laughing.

5. Pinterest always makes me laugh..

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I guess that’s why I don’t own a LV?

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hahahahahaa YESSSSS!!

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I Can’t Wait

In the past week or so I have noticed a reoccurring theme that keeps popping up when I least expect it. Love.

I am slightly obsessed with Ashley & J.P. I didn’t watch their season, but I do follow her on twitter because I think she is the cutest. I know that their wedding was televised and I missed it. A few days later I remembered it so I watched in online. Now, I am not typically a crier at sweet things, but I was bawling happy tears. They are adorable together!!! They sort of remind me of Carrie and Mike. Maybe not physically, or their story, but their love for one another does. It’s the real deal…

As I was browsing Pinterest earlier, I came across what I thought was a wedding picture. It was pretty and I thought it would be a cute idea for when that day comes. So I clicked on the link to find that it was a blog post someone had written about How to Ensure Your Marriage Will Get Better with Age. I was curious to see what all she had to say so I read her post. She was pretty dead on with a lot of things. I am pasting her post below for easier access to reading it.

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I have been really hesitant to write this post, not only because it is a personal subject, but because I don’t want anyone to think I’m claiming to be a marriage expert. I’m not one, but I just couldn’t shake the feeling that I needed to write this. Finally, I decided that even if this post helped to strengthen just one marriage, it would be worth writing.  Every marriage is different, everyone has their own struggles and challenges, and I don’t claim that this is a comprehensive list.  It is a sincere attempt at dissecting why my marriage is the best thing in my life, and what it is that makes ours and other marriages successful.

Today is our five year anniversary. I can’t believe how fast five years has gone. It’s crazy how in a way five years seems like a big deal, but at the same time it really feels like we’ve been together so much longer than that. Recently we traveled home to attend Bryce’s little sister’s wedding. One morning all the girls went for a walk and my MIL asked us if we wished we could go back to being “newlyweds.” I was shocked at how quickly everyone responded “no way,” including myself. Although I loved being a newlywed and cherish those memories, I could never give up the things I have learned in these five short years. We have grown so much. Overcoming challenges, making decisions together, growing together, changing together, really getting to know this amazing man I married, I could never give up what we have learned and shared. Yes, things change. Bodies change, lifestyles change, children come and eventually they will go out on their own, but one thing I will always have is my husband, so here’s to making sure marriage gets better with age.
Don’t keep score. Marriage is not a game. It’s not a contest either. So why are we inclined to keep a mental tally of who is ahead? If you notice yourself checking a mental scoreboard when you do something to benefit your spouse, chances are your heart is not in the right place and you probably aren’t even noticing all the things he does for you and your family.
 
Learn to communicate well. Men and women are so different (duh) and it seems like communication is one of the ways these fundamental differences like to manifest themselves. When we were engaged our ecclesiastical leader strongly recommended that we take a marriage prep class. I’m so glad we did.  When it comes to communicating I always remember one particular story the instructor told. He and his wife were newly married and they were driving somewhere in the car. His wife asked him if he wanted anything to drink. He replied he did not. She responded, inquiring if he was sure he wasn’t thirsty. He assured her he was fine. She said, “there is a 711 right up here on the corner, it would be really easy to stop if you are.” He said again that he didn’t need a drink, but thanks anyway. When they arrived at their destination he was shocked to realize that his wife was upset with him. All she wanted was a drink. The reason I remember this story is because as comical as it is, I catch myself doing this even after five years. As soon as I realize what I am doing I force myself to say, “babe, I want a drink, can we stop?” and amazingly he is always quick to agree. Ah, direct communication. Everyone’s communication issues are different, but miscommunication causes fights and tensions that can otherwise be easily eliminated. Try to figure out what your communication differences are and breach the barriers.
 
Forgive immediately. My husband is so good at this. I remember one night saying something so mean to him in a hormonal frenzy and running up the stairs to our room. I am a proud person, and even though I knew even as the encounter happened that I was in the wrong, it was still hard to make myself go downstairs and apologize. I remember getting up my courage and finally going down. No sooner had a tearful “I’m sorry” escaped my lips than my husband had swept me up into his arms and told me it was okay, and how much he loved me. I was ashamed at this moment to realize how often my husband had committed smaller offenses which I then made him suffer for as he laid out extensive explanations for his tiny misdeeds. Or, the times when he had sincerely apologized and I had responded with an indifferent “it’s fine.”  I am trying to teach myself to forgive right away, acknowledging that no one is perfect, and remembering how much I love him despite any weaknesses. Not to mention how I want him to forgive me mine.
 
Make the time you have together count. Life is demanding. Sometimes it seems like there isn’t time in the day to get your chores done, let alone go out on a date with your spouse. One thing that has really blessed our relationship is that we have always tried to make the time we do have together worthwhile. For example, if you are going to watch a show, don’t sit on separate couches while you each browse your phones during commercials. Hold hands. Talk about what you’re watching, Talk about anything. Another way we have tried to do this is by establishing an early bedtime for our son. As soon as my husband gets home he focuses on our son, giving him his full attention, playing, laughing, teaching, and then he puts him to bed so that he gets a good amount of quality time with him each day. It has been such a blessing for us to have a few hours together before we go to sleep when we are kid-free. I realize everyone’s schedules and demands are different. Ours have changed several times since we’ve been married, but the point is to make an effort to spend meaningful time together.
 
Pray and read scriptures together.  I know that not everyone is religious and I’m not saying you have to be to make a marriage work, but I couldn’t leave this out if I am being honest about what strengthens our relationship. We read our scriptures and pray together every night and I can’t begin to explain how it has blessed our marriage. For starters, it is really hard to hold onto a silly grudge or argument as you hold hands and pray together. To take it deeper though, I can’t explain the love I feel as I hear my husband plead with God for me and for our children, for strength to keep our marriage covenants and for solutions to our problems. It is also a time when he gets to see that I recognize the things he does for our family as I tell my Heavenly Father about them and express my gratitude for such a loving husband and family.
 
Keep the sexual flame alive. Since this is a personal subject I am not going to go into details, I’ll only say that the physical side of a marriage not only matters, but is critically important. It always makes me sad to hear couples joke about how this dies out over time, after kids, etc. It doesn’t have to (shouldn’t) be that way. I’m not saying things don’t change, I’m simply saying make the physicality of your relationship a priority.
 
Don’t ever talk negatively about your spouse to others, especially your parents. If you and your spouse are having an issue or disagreement (and we all face them), it should stay between you. Complaining about your spouse to your mom not only doesn’t solve anything, but is a breach of trust and sews seeds of worry and dislike of your spouse in your parents and friends. Write in a journal, talk to God, talk to your spouse, and sincerely try to deal with the issue on your own. If you still struggle, consider consulting a councilor or ecclesiastical leader. Once you’re past the problem, you will be glad you didn’t tell the whole world about it, and so will your spouse.
 
Focus on the positive.  To state it simply, every relationship has good things and bad things. Focusing on the bad things only blurs the good ones out of your line of sight.
 
Serve your spouse. All relationships have peaks and valleys. It’s totally normal to have times that are particularly good and times when things are just static. During times when I feel static and not head over heels in love, I ask myself “what have I done for him lately?” “What am I doing to make this relationship fresh and exciting?” “What am I doing to make him love me more?” Try to do something special. Write a love note, clean his car, set up a date, or simply look into his eyes and tell him you love him so much. It’s amazing how when I change the way I treat him, it automatically changes how I feel about our relationship.
 
Set goals together. You are a team and it helps to have common goals. Talk about your hopes and dreams and then set about to work hard and realize them. As you work and sacrifice toward the same things it will bring you closer together and neither partner will feel like they are “doing it alone.”
 
Live frugally. It would be naïve to act as if money doesn’t often cause marital discord. Monetary issues are one of the top three reasons cited for divorce in the United States. There is a really simple solution to this: live within your means. Be grateful for the things that you have. If you focus on how you can work together and save to achieve your goals it will bless your marriage and help you focus on what is really important in life. I have loved writing this blog because it constantly reminds me to simplify and live frugally, which in turn has blessed our relationship.
 
Shed your selfishness. If I was going to give only one suggestion to anyone who was having marital trouble it would be this last one. Put your spouse first. If you let go of your own wants and needs and seek to meet the wants and needs of your partner you will be amazed at how your love will grow and your happiness will multiply.
 
Even though I am nowhere near perfect I am willing to work hard every day to make sure that my marriage succeeds, so now you have a list of the things I work on. I hope that this post helps someone else to do the same.
If you have any other thoughts on what makes a marriage work or ideas that have helped you strengthen your relationships I’d love for you to share in the comments, I am always learning from your thoughtful responses.
 
 
 
I am so excited about falling in love. Real, honest, sweet love. 🙂

Do Me

I hope everyone had a fantastic New Years!

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You know how you always hear people throw around the word Resolution towards the end of the year, and how 9 times out of 10 its to lose weight? Well, I’m a little different. Sure, I could lose 10-15lbs.. I {try} to become a better version of myself daily. Some times I fail miserably and some times I succeed. Luckily each day is a new beginning and all you can do is put your best foot forward.

Those of you that have followed my old blog and this one know that I’ve had my share of ups and downs. This past year was definitely a roller coaster . Over my 29 years on Earth I have learned a lot about myself; my faith, my heart, and my mind. I try to live in the moment because you only get one chance at this thing called life, and when it’s over, GAME OVER.

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With that being said, this year’s resolution is to not only be a better me, but for me to DO me. Do what I want. Accomplish my goals. Don’t let any thing or any one stand in my way. This is The Year of the Bucket List. I’m going to be in the front row with my hands in the air and hair blowing in the wind. Or my hair blowing in the wind while I scream and grasp on for dear life. All I can do is get on for the ride.

With the death of my dad came many emotions. I think maybe the greatest lessons I’ve (re)learned are:

1) hold on tight to those that I know without a shadow of a doubt love and cherish me, while showing them how much they mean to me; and

2) I am the only person that will have my best interests at heart.

I have some phenomenal friends that keep me grounded, and for that I am thankful. I am pretty lucky to also have a boss that is like a father figure to me and gives me the best advice and truly does look out for me. In the last few months I feel lucky enough to have two father figures at work. Sometimes we don’t get along, but we have become a little family. (This year will mark my 6th year). I feel very blessed to have friends that I can ask, “Will this choice take me down a path I will regret?” and they will give me the 100% truth. I’ve always felt closer to my friends than my family which is why I cherish them so much.

I think I may have gone off on a tangent… You get my point though. The whole idea behind a Bucket List is to live, experience, and have great stories to tell. That’s what I want {to continue} this year. I don’t see any one or any thing standing in my way, and that, my friends, is a wonderful feeling.

Here’s to 2013!

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