Monthly Archives: March 2013

Advice on Men

Advice from Oprah about men

Oprah-Winfrey

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends”. A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

Don’t settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.

Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are… even if he has more education or in a better job.

Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending…compromise is two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships…there is nothing cute about baggage… deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you…a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals…look for someone complimentary…not supplementary.

Dating is fun…even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes…when a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him – he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother’s house.

Never co-sign for a man.

Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

 

As seen on Tailored to an E.

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80s party! SO fun!!!

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 The flooring went in! Carpet is long gone. She looks so pretty!

 

 

 

 

Thoughts and Prayers

I do my best praying and thinking in the shower. Depending on my day, I take a shower in the morning and one at night. Tonight after working out, I started thinking about God and why things are the way they are. Let me see if I can word this..

There’s a particular situation that I absolutely do not understand. Most of what I don’t understand are the feelings that I have. Do we actually have control over our feelings though? Which is probably the main problem. I am a control freak. I can’t do anything about the situation and it’s in the past. It hurts and makes me sad. All I have are the make-me-want-to-vomit feelings. Literally sick to my stomach. WHY? I don’t want to. I want to not care. Yet I do. A lot.

In the shower I started thinking, that’s your problem. HELLO! You’re a control freak. You need to let go and let God. Only, where and how do you begin? How do you change the pattern? Which lead me to thinking, why didn’t God make it easy? On the flip side, if he made us all perfect, what would the point of everything be? Everything as in, life, Jesus dying for us.. Why can’t we all just be happy and healthy and worship Him? That probably sounds really stupid but that was really my thought process. Can you tell that even when I’m praying I seem to get side-tracked?

I’m not sure if it’s my age or what, but I’ve started feeling ..empty. I think maybe that’s the best way to word my feelings. I’ve started to realize that just praying is not cutting it. I’ve actually read a few blogs in particular (Bloom, The Little Things We Do, and Butler: Party of 2)  that made me think, wow they are so into their relationship with God and you can tell. That’s definitely something that just praying is not doing for me. I downloaded the YouVersion Bible App that Kerri mentioned in her post. I think this should help me tremendously. I think that daily devotion is a good start for me.  It’s not fair for me to ask God to bless me with all these things that I want in the future (husband, family, etc) and only interact with Him through prayer. I figure I have absolutely nothing to lose. I mean, I want to feel joy too! That’s the one I am starting with – A Jolt of Joy. There are several others that caught my eye, but I think for now I need to stick to doing just one.

Friday Funnies

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Me and my dad 2006

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Happy Birthday Dad!

Happy birthday!!! I’m thinking of you, especially today.  I made your favorite cake in your memory.

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Hope you are dancing today!

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 I love you!!! 

 

To understand this post, read this.

Friday Funnies

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YES that is a Yorkie, in a dish glove! hahahaa LOVE!!!!

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Some of my oldest and dearest friends! Paige, me, Megan and Grace. This was taken at a restaurant in 2003. We were such babies!! I’m the only one out of this bunch that doesn’t have a family. Is that weird?

Best Things

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I saw this picture on Pinterest and I think there are a few things I would change. Here is my top 10 list for the best things in the world.

  1. a soft, affectionate touch from someone you care about
  2. sweet doggy kisses when you are sad
  3. randomly hearing your favorite song
  4. that moment when I eat a petit four from this bakery back home.
  5. the feeling of love and being loved
  6. seeing someone you care about genuinely happy
  7. gorgeous spring days playing in the park
  8. ass in the water, toes in the sand, cold drink in my hand 🙂
  9. finishing your best friend’s sentences because you are so in sync
  10. feeling sexy

Friday Funnies

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My friends Kory, Mollie and me at the Braves game. Circa 2006 I believe. I just found out last night that Mollie is prego with her first! So happy for her. Actually, Kory and his gf are prego too! I’m glad I’m not in those shoes! haha

Vacation Bug

It’s safe to say that the vacation bug has officially hit me. Only, the vacation I’m planning isn’t until October. What can I say, I like to know details. See, it’s kind of a big deal. It will be my 30th birthday! My bestie’s birthday is the day before mine so we are going on vacation together. Since I’m all about knocking things off my bucket list, we haven’t really decided on where to go yet. There are so many things to factor in! Do we want to rent a place, or stay in a hotel? How many people are going with us? Right now, we are thinking about 3 possible vaction locations..

Virgin Islands – St. Croix

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Cancun, Mexico

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or go on a cruise

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Honestly, you can pretty much put me in sand and water and I’ll be happy! I’m a little nervous about the cruise idea – they haven’t had a good rep the last couple of years. I’m hoping we can take advantage of a free place in Mexico. Either way, I’m  so excited!!

February Bucket List Completions

Weelllll I slacked this month. I have been slammed with work and so tired that I just really didn’t feel like doing much. I’ve been so busy with work, the guys decided to reward me, which was nice!! I had a few things going on in my personal life too, so I went to the doctor and we changed up some meds. I’m back on for March!

Waiting

You may remember this post about love. Some times you come across things that can only be a sign from God. Like these two posts. Click on the title and it will take you to each blog post. I only pasted a few parts from each blog.

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Not Open for Business

A few years back my friend Amanda was hell bent and determined to put me on match.com to find a man. Thank goodness she never did because I don’t necessarily believe in the whole online dating thing. Not to mention my roommate in college did it and went out on some dates with real whack jobs. Online dating should have a mental health screen first….

I believe that God – big man upstairs – has something better planned for my love life. I trust that He is going to put the right man in my life at the right time. I’m just wondering WHEN. When making my cheesy wedding website, I don’t want to have to tell everyone and their mother that we met online. DISCLAIMER – I am not knocking online dating and those who have done it and or gotten married from it. My big met her husband through it. If you found the love of your life then more power to you sister!

They say that you find love when you least expect it – whomp whomp – well isn’t online dating basically a supercharged way of looking and finding a mate?

On that cheesy wedding website I want some kind of equally cheesy or nauseating love story about how we met. I am sure that I sound ridiculous right now. And if you are a man reading this you might call me crazy and I’m going to let you in on a little secret…I pretty much am and so are all the rest of the women on this planet. I hope you have figured that out by now. And if you haven’t, I hope I just didn’t blow your mind.

 

Thank you, my thoughts exactly! It will happen when it is supposed to, not just because you set up an online dating profile.

 

God’s Perfect Timing

 

Here’s what I’m learning. We claim we trust God….and most of us think we trust God. But when it comes down to it, do we REALLY trust Him??

We trust God with our eternity, but it’s so much tougher to trust Him with our NOW. We live in a generation where we like quick fixes, and we expect our prayers to be answered in the same way. Quickly. Preferably in our own time, and in the way we want. We are not content with anything else.

We assume when God doesn’t answer us immediately that He doesn’t hear us; that He isn’t working in our life; that He doesn’t love us; that we have done something wrong and are being punished. It seems like He is blessing everyone else BUT us….and we begin focusing on and comparing our journey with others’. That is NOT at all what God intends.

Your journey is your own, and God has you EXACTLY where He wants you, and for a reason. Our goal as believers should be to continue to seek Him, draw closer to Him, TRUST Him, and have faith in His works….which includes (as difficult as it may be) accepting HIS TIMING.

God is ALWAYS at work. And God is LOVE. He always has your best interest at heart. He wants the VERY best for you, and that includes HIS perfect timing. We forget that we  can only see right now, but God sees big picture. Sometimes He is busy working other things out so He can bless us above and beyond all we have asked or imagined (Ephesians 3:20). Sometimes he is trying to help us to grow closer to Him….to learn to trust HIM alone, lean ONLY on Him (Proverbs 3:5-6), and develop our faith. When we try to rush things and make things happen in our own timing, we can end up causing ourselves a lot of heartache and pain. I know I have seen this time and time again…particularly when people rush into marriage. We tend to always be thinking of the next step, and sometimes God just wants us to BE STILL. To listen. To let Him finish a work.

So here’s my challenge. Id you are in a season of waiting, do not give up. Try not to questions God’s timing. Rather, ask Him what He is trying to show you during your waiting. What is it He is wanting to do in your life, right now?? Dig into the Word, spend more time with Him in prayer, and find comfort and peace in Scriptures that speak to you. And definitely do NOT make a move until you hear clearly from the Lord. So many times we try to rush things and make them happen in our own timing, and like I said, when we do things out of God’s will, that usually results in chaos and heartache.

 

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Friday Funnies

I died laughing the first time I saw this. This little girl’s laugh is hilarious!!!! It’s so funny to think that she’s just laughing because her dog is eating popcorn! hahahaha Enjoy!

 

 

I am saving this video under my favorites the next time I have a bad day.