Monthly Archives: January 2014


I’m a little late on my Grammy post. I’ve been working my ass off at work. Thank God there was a snow day yesterday and I was able to catch up on some of my DVR…

If you watched the Grammys you say Bey and Jay open the show.

So many people are bashing her because it was 8PM and she should be a role model. Uh, do you not remember Brit, Madonna and Christina kissing a few years ago, or Miley accepting an award talking about smoking pot, or her performance with Robin Thicke? Bey looked hot! Reminded me of the time I performed a lap dance for a bf. Only Bey doesn’t get nervous in front of a crowd. The song is called Drunk In Love and she performed it with her husband. Haters gone hate.

Another amazing performance was Kendrick Lamar with Imagine Dragons. Wow.

Even if you don’t like the music, you have to appreciate the show they put on. They brought it.

Another performer that brought it, Pink. Home girl has one impressive body. I can’t even imagine how much strength she has to be able to do that.

I can’t forget to mention Maclemore, Ryan Lewis, Mary Lambert and Madonna featuring Queen Latifah. Wow. Talk about going down in history. I saw an interview that Ryan Lewis gave saying that his sister was one of the couples that got married. How awesome. Also, did you catch Keith Urban with tears? Love!

V Day

Or what I like to refer to as my day. ūüėÄ If you’re in a normal relationship, I think it’s safe to assume that you’re going to get laid on Valentine’s Day. In order to do that, you should probably better show up with gifts. Here are some sure-fire ways to ensure you get some. These should all be a no brainer, but sometimes men are stupid. Just being honest.


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The Mesh & Lace Corset is a good idea. I browsed VS and I was a little disappointed in their selection. You could always settle for a lacy bra and panty.



Godiva is always a good way to go. You can’t go wrong with a Godiva truffle or chocolate covered strawberry.


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Kendra Scott is a great place for jewelry. They have a ton of items to choose from and you can also customize pieces like I did in this picture. If that doesn’t work for you, you can’t go wrong with diamonds.



I love this arrangement. It has everything.. pops of color, roses and my personal favorite, those lilies.

This is also pretty. I am a big fan of the square vases with the leaves wrapped around. This is when it comes in handy to know her favorite flowers. Of course you can’t ever go wrong with roses. Bonus points for sending her flowers to the office.

As a general rule, the more items you show up with, the higher your chances are of getting the good stuff. And I don’t just mean sex. The. Good. Stuff. Just don’t wait around last minute. The best items are always picked over if you do!

PicMonkey Collage

If you can’t afford anything, make her a card. Yes, make. As long as its sweet and thoughtful, you’re golden.

Things I Want..



and this..


which is why I refuse to settle.


Can a person be too positive? This conversation happened between myself and a friend earlier today. We were talking about heartache and how everything happens for a reason.



It’s so much easier to look back and think, yes that happened in order for ____ to happen. At the time, it sucked. I’d like to credit The Single Woman and just finishing her book for reiterating things I already knew. It sounds lame and cheesy, but sometimes you need the reminders.



It’s true what they say, the older you get the wiser you become.

Some people choose to stick by decisions they’ve made, being unhappy, than to be happy. I understand to an extent because there are so many unknowns that can terrify you. I think that if you have faith that everything will work out, it will. Taking that leap however, is the first step. It’s not an easy one, but I don’t think it should be.

I know of too many couples that are together “for the kids” or because getting married is “the next step”. Both of which, I do not agree with.

Kids are much more perceptive than adults realize. They pick up on things. They mimic things. If you have an unhappy marriage, your kids pick up on tiny details and they know. Not only do they know, they think the relationship you have with your partner is normal. Which is not normal. I personally believe that it’s better for kids to see each parent happy, even if they are apart.

I think there are many factors as to why people aren’t in happy marriage. Mostly, I think they settled and/or they didn’t wait to marry the right person for them.

I found out recently that an acquaintance of mine drinks half a bottle of Jack a night because that’s the only way she knows how to handle her life. She is young, beautiful, smart and extremely unhappy. On the outside she has the picture perfect family. Finding out this information made me sad for her. Why would you do that to yourself? Why would you allow yourself to be unhappy for the rest of your life?


As ready as I think I am to get married, God is telling me that I’m not. For me, it’s never been about getting married, but about finding that person that challenges me, loves me unconditionally, thinks the world of me and vice versa.

Remember when I posted about Eric & Jessie? I watched their wedding episode. It was nothing short of amazing. They are clearly in love with each other. I love that she became so overwhelmed with emotion when she opened her wedding present from Eric. That to me, is what real love is all about. The way they are together.





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Usually I’m not one for making resolutions because I never stick to them. This year I decided to give it another go.. Here is my list.

1. Floss more (I’m sure my dentist will be happy with this one)


2. Save more money


3. Go out of the U.S. on vacation


Eat healthier


Exercise regularly (and get this ass)


Complete tattoo removal


Sounds fairly easy, no? I have little reminders set up in my phone to help me so that I succeed! We are only a few days in but so far, so good!

Weekly Roundup

WTF Facts










Christmas and New Years Fun





New Years with the girls







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Our awesome waiter





me and G after L and C went home..



Ran into my M.A.C. girl Noor!




To read my first post click here.
When Ashley and I went to the medium/psychic, I knew I would want to record what she said or have Ashley write it down. I knew I’d be in the moment and by the time I left I wouldn’t remember a lot of what she said, especially if I was focusing on one particular thing.
She started off with a prayer and then went right into it‚Ķ She did most of the talking and she stated facts without asking a lot of questions. If she asked a question, she would press on before I could answer, and she was always correct. Here’s how it went..
Her: Are you moving?
Me: noooo..
Her: They are showing me marriage. They don’t usually push that this early in.. You will meet someone in 4-6 months, dark hair, about 5’10”, broad hands, strong, muscular arms. Possibly a wedding next fall? I see you holding hands. He has on a plaid button down shirt.
As far as your career…you feel like you have hit a dead end, want change. You are creative with many things.. clothes, furniture, people? Mental health field possibly…a counselor? ¬†You must follow your dreams to reach your greatness. (Then she says that Ashley,¬†who went first, and I are¬†both very altruistic and parallel…like sisters, we’ve shared many lifetimes and roles together.)¬†You would be good at writing, art therapy.
Her: Do friends come to you asking for relationship advice?
Me: yes.
Her: You give good advice¬†don’t you?
Me: yes.
Her: Good, I don’t like when people try to act like they aren’t good at something.¬†You’re more of a people person and sterile offices are not for you. You would be good working with abused children/women.
Her: Has someone close to you been abused?
Her: Okay, my guides told me it was you, but I didn’t want to make you feel uncomfortable. It happened in your childhood and you¬†tend to judge yourself by this. It’s very powerful and makes you feel unworthy of being loved, you see it as your fault, but you were powerless. Your father is here. He loves you greatly and says he is sorry. This is actually a great blessing for you because it will lead you to your greatness. It will be your motivation to help others, and you will have an understanding of how they operate, see them through the therapy process. You have empathy for¬†them. ¬†This has set you up for your destiny. ¬†You are sad for the child of your past, and sad for the adult you are now, but to reach your higher self work, you must forgive the perpetrator. ¬†I want you to understand this, before we come to earth, we choose our parents‚Ķ You needed someone to play the mother that looks the other way and the father that does the deed. It has caused a great disquiet. ¬†The man that is back there, is your father. ¬†He is¬†pointing at himself saying he did it, he is crying and saying he is sorry. He is professional, good looking, sandy brown hair, kept himself up, nice hands, he is so sorry he couldn’t make it right with you before he died. ¬†He feels guilty still. ¬†He came to you recently in a dream.
Do you have a temper? ¬†He came to you at work to keep you from losing your temper and he brought love to you at work.¬†Your guides and angels are your team and they help you to work out your blueprint and keep you safe. ¬†He was there in your office and he will be there for you. ¬†You were saying “how was I able to calm down?” ¬†It was because of him. ¬†He brought angels with him. He was standing to your left because he wanted his hand near your heart. He had his hand on your shoulder.
The past is not an accident and because of it, you are a great listener but you shut yourself down so you don’t have to feel other’s pain. ¬†You are an “empath” and feel like sometimes the pain that other’s feel is too hard to handle, but you need to give in to it. It is a great gift.
Your dad wants you to find peace with this. ¬†She (the medium/psychic) can see me meditating, like with white lights, call in my team, also archangel Rapheal, candles, chakras, flower of lotus. ¬†It is like a trap door…call him to you, tell him ¬†you forgive him and you love him and thank him for what he has set up for you.
You will work with some horrific cases of abuse.  People benefit from forgiving others.  Your dad says you are a chip off the old block and he adores you.
I asked about the significance to number 32. I saw the number as a cloud on the way to his burial or funeral.¬†Your dad is laughing, he said it is a puzzle. ¬†She doesn’t get anything. ¬†He tells her you are worried about him. ¬†Sadness of grief, more at that time and you feel a lack of closure. ¬†He says don’t worry we’ll both be ok and both will have peace. It is the combination of 3 and 2 into 5 or something. ¬†Nothing stands out to her. Is it a date or and age or the 32nd something?¬†March 2? ¬†5 letters in word never. ¬†5 words in phrase…you will never be alone. ¬†Your adult life you have felt very alone. ¬†You told him you want him to walk you down the aisle. ¬†He will be at your wedding. ¬†His spirit is very protective of you. ¬†He says it (the number) is a date.

Me: Will I have kids?

Her: You are asking because you think that is what a woman “should” do. ¬†You will be in a great relationship and it will be easy for you not to have kids if you don’t want to¬†have them. ¬†You will become so involved in your work and you don’t have a hard and fast contract to have kids. ¬†You will get your fulfillment from work and won’t experience any regret about not having children, but you may wind up adopting…possibly an abused child. ¬†Not a blood relation and you will bring them up in a right and better situation. ¬†No strong need for you to have a child from your womb. ¬†Don’t push yourself to have kids. Your ambivilence about children could be because you will adopt.


and that was that. everything that she said happened truly did. which blew me away. ..

December Bucket List Completions

Go to a yoga class



That’s all I’ve got for December. It was a busy month. Lame.

Two Years

I’ve officially been posting on this site for one year. Seems like it’s been longer because I had a Google blog for several years. Happy belated Bday to my little blog!