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Three Ohhh

My 30th didn’t start out great.

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Let me back up by saying that M accidentally emailed me Sept. 30. He sent a reminder for my birthday instead of an invitation when he set up his Google calendar.  So, that was fun.

See, logically I shouldn’t think about him or talk about him or miss him. I do though. I find myself saying things like “well Matt used to do X that was so funny” or something like that. When I tore him a new one emailed him around Easter, I purged everything. I was hurt to the core, and I let him know that. So why aren’t my head and heart on the same page?? That’s an excellent question. One I pray about daily.

I can deal with my feelings, but having him contact me is an entirely new level of confusing that I can’t wrap my head around. Of course all the old feelings came to surface, and I let him know. He said I mindfucked him. Because I woke up that morning knowing he’d email me..

As I was driving home from my picnic with the bestie for her birthday, I saw an email from him. My first thought was OMG STOP EMAILING ME REMINDERS!! Then I realized that it was an actual email he typed out. I read it, picked my place up a bit, got ready for bed, and then figured out my response. My response received no response, which I think hurt more than the initial email.

I woke up on my birthday confused and sad. As I was thinking about things tears streamed down my face and I began praying again. Why can he affect me this way? Why am I not over this already? What is the bigger picture here? What am I missing? PLEASE show me what all this means because I can’t take this back and forth limbo anymore. It’s very frustrating.

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I started cleaning my place up for company arriving later and took things to storage. When I took a break from all the cleaning, tears streamed down my face again. You’re not supposed to cry on your birthday! I decided I would not let it get to me and it would not ruin my birthday, especially my 30th. I’d already had one ex ruin my 21st. I began cleaning again and around that time the bestie showed up. Thank God for that angel. She brought me a mini cake and some champagne for us to toast to. I gave her a hug after she put her stuff down and she told me NO TEARS! Not anymore. I love that she gets it. She gets the tears, the anger, the frustration, the sadness, the whole picture.

After the toast we got lunch, got a mani/pedi and our hair done. What a great way to spend your 30th. Being pampered with your best friend. After getting our hair done we headed to my place to get ready for the evening. I planned a small dinner with close friends, then dancing. I have never had so many people flake out of plans in my life.

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The older I get, the more I realize who I can and cannot count on to be there for me. In the past I have allowed myself to become upset when I realized I couldn’t count on someone. I’m not sure if it’s an age thing or everything I have been through in the last year, but recently I have had the whatever attitude towards people when I realize that I can’t count on them. I tend to hold my friends to high standards. Maybe those standards aren’t necessarily fair to hold people to. Because of these high standards, I have been able to weed out the people that I don’t need in my life. I recall a convo between M and I from years ago.. He said he always thought he was a good friend, but since knowing me, he realized I was a GREAT friend to my friends and that he could be a better friend. I pride myself on that. If we have a connection and you need me, for something big or small, I am there. What ever gene that is, I’m glad I have it. I think it makes me a better person.
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I love birthdays, especially mine. I love all things that go with it, celebrating, cake, friends, dressing up, etc. I originally started out with 10 people coming to celebrate my birthday  with me. Minutes before dinner, there were not 10 people. Maybe I should gift some Emily Post books for Christmas? It was actually me, Ashley and a guy she worked with that I’ve met once. Major props to him, he barely knew me. I had two more friends that joined me afterwards that couldn’t be there for dinner due to scheduling. Where the rest of my friends were, I don’t know. The people that knew it meant a lot to me showed up, and I truly appreciate that.

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I just wanted to document my milestone birthday.. Here are some pictures from my bday.

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My office sent me flowers on Friday. They care!

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Saturday night. You can’t tell in this pic, but I figured my 30th was the perfect occasion to wear my Louboutins.

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Making fun of Ashley for how she was posing in the first pic.

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G and me

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Me and Ash

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Obligatory shot. Ugh, I’m so not a shot girl.

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G, me, Ash and Laura

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cake!

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Blowing out my candle

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I was taking a pic of Ash and my friend Nick photo bombed the pic. Hilarious.

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Laughing with Laura

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If You Really Knew Me

Last weekend I went shopping with my bestie to buy myself a 30th birthday present. Our last stop was the Michael Kors store where I found two bags that I liked. The bags were the same color, the same price, only the detailing was different. I couldn’t figure out which bag I liked more. One bag had 3 compartments with a zipper in the middle, separating the two sides. The other bag was a little smaller but had a cute tassel on the handle. I’m such an organized freak that I loved the bigger bag with the three compartments, but I really loved the smaller bag with the tassel too.

I asked Ashley for her opinion and she liked the smaller bag with the tassel. She thought the bigger bag was a little plain. So I’m standing there in front of the mirror with a bag on each arm trying to figure out which bag I like the best, when the sales lady comes over to help me. She asked if I was trying to decide which bag I liked and I told her I was. Another customer walked by and she told me she liked the bigger bag with the compartments the best. The sales lady, who looks to be around 24 tells me that she also likes the bigger bag. I call Ashley over and tell her that they both like the bigger bag. She reminds me that I’ll be the one carrying it so I should get whatever bag I like the best.

With Ashely and the sales lady standing there, waiting for me to just pick a bag already!, the sales lady says that I seem pretty conservative, so she would go with the bigger bag. Ashley dies laughing and says, “seems conservative, if you only knew her!” and walks off. The sales lady gives me a questioning look and I tell her that yes, while I appear to be conservative, if she knew my personality she would know that, in fact, I am not in a lot of ways. To that she responded with, “Well what ever you’re doing, keep doing it because it’s working for you!”. haha Love her!

I get told that all the time. I get some version of conservative, quiet, sweet, innocent.. Is it because I have a baby face and look like I’m 23? If you really knew me, you’d know that I am not quiet, I am not that conservative, and I am definitely not that innocent. Not at 29 years old. I like to call it being a realist.

Like Luda says, we want a lady in the streets but a freak in the bed. 😉

1 year

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About a month ago one of my friends I’d lost touch with contacted me. She’s one of those special people that you can spend 2 hours talking to and time seems to stand still. Abbi is one of the most incredible and uplifting people I’ve had the pleasure of knowing. She just has this gift with how she speaks to you. She and I talked a good bit when my dad was first diagnosed with cancer. When we talked one of the first nights a month ago, she told me that even though we’d lost touch she wanted me to know that she continued to pray for me.

I told her about the first dream I had about my dad, which was in his house a few days after he passed away. In my dream he pointed at me while he was smiling wide and said “We will dance.” Just having the dream itself meant so much to me. I thought that it was his special way of reaching out to me because as a child we watched Footloose and The Sound of Music a lot.  I remember seeing a picture of him when I was little of him dancing on top of a table. I get it from him, what can I say? I never really thought much else about it until I was telling Abbi about it. As we were talking about the last few moments with my dad, I mentioned to her that as I was holding his hand I told him all I’d ever wanted was for him to walk me down the aisle. Even though he couldn’t talk at that point, he squeezed my hand. At that moment I burst into tears. It meant so much to me that what I said to him meant something to him as well, and that he understood what I said. Less than 10 minutes later, he was gone.

Abbi told she was absolutely sure that my dream was him telling me that we would dance at my wedding. I think that hit me so hard I didn’t really know how to react until a day later when I cried because it meant so much and I was positive she was right.

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Isn’t it funny how things like that happen? That’s God doing his magic right there. There was such a feeling of peace that came over me after it finally hit me.

It’s hard to believe it’s been one year.

Dad I think about you every day. Most of the time I think about funny stories about you, or funny things you did, even things you would do and I would be so embarrassed about. I completely understand them now, because I am you almost to a T. (ha! T. His name begins with a T.) I am proud that I get 90% of my personality from you. Sometimes I long for the relationship we could have had, but I am happy that we were able to make up for lost time in 7 days. I love seeing you in my dreams, that will never get old. I had the fear of not remembering your laugh or your “hey” when you answered the phone. I hope those are things I never forget. I still hear your voice as clear as day when I think about you, and for that I am so grateful. I love you!

Who??

On the way to the beach with my bestie, we listened to songs on my iPhone. Of course there were goodies from back in ’03. Wow, do I feel old typing that or what! I started noticing a theme in rap songs. Sometimes peoples names are mentioned and I have no clue who they are. This goes for songs ‘back in the day’ and songs out currently.

Here are some people that I have no idea who they are:

  • Billy Ocean
  • Bruce Bruce
  • Nia Long
  • Mike Jones
  • Lisa Ray

One of my friends brothers thought I said my dog’s name was Billy instead of Bentley about a year ago. We thought it was pretty funny so at times I will call him Billy. If he’s not listening to me, I will call his name. If he looks at me but doesn’t do what I ask, I will call him Billy and guess what! HE DOES WHAT I ASKED! It’s kinda crazy.

After our beach trip I decided to start calling him Billy Ocean. Just because, I mean, that’s funny. My bestie is getting a dog for her son and I begged her to name it Bruce Bruce or Mike Jones. She died laughing and she agreed to name him Bruce Bruce! hahaha YESSSSS!

 

Here are a few pics from the beach trip. The company I work for was nice enough to let us use their beach condo!

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the One

A friend of mine sent me this last week and it hit me like a ton of bricks stuck with me. HELLO that’s why it hasn’t worked out with anyone so far – they didn’t fit with me like a puzzle piece. I needed to completely change how I was praying.

 

These are great points to remember as we wait for the man God brings to us and seek discernment in dating….
 
 
Is HE the ONE? THE RIGHT ONE
 
First we must allow our Heavenly Father to do the picking. And second, the decision for a mate must be made on a spiritual and intellectual basis before it’s made on an emotional one.
 
“What about love? Shouldn’t that be the third?” you ask. No, and I’ll tell you why. “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?” (Jeremiah 17:9).
 
The heart is willful and is driven by its own agenda. It does not consider things rationally and intelligently it just loves to love! Therefore you have to point it in the right direction: “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the well spring of life.” (Proverbs 4:23)!
 
Whenever you meet a man, you need to get clearance from God, check out his attributes, and then allow your heart to engage.
 
Dating exists not for mating; it exists for collecting data. I believe that the biblical design would be friendship, courtship and then marriage.
 
Friendship is two people walking together in agreement and accountability, learning and growing together.
 
Courtship follows the mutual agreement to commit to one another exclusively – it is the decisive turning toward the agreed-upon goal of the marriage altar. It is a period of laying a foundation and preparing your life together after marriage.
 
But dating? Well, if you do date, use the time wisely to gather these facts..
 
1. Check out the fabric. Is the person mate material? Does this man have an intimate relationship with the Father through Jesus Christ? Does he care what God thinks about his behavior? Is he accountable to God as well as another co-laborer in the faith? Accountability is an important factor. It is imperative to maintaining a committed relationship. Is your potential spouse a member of the same family – the family of God?
 
You need to have common interests and values and agree on the essentials of living day to day. You have a similar spiritual walk. You eat the same spiritual diet. You enjoy a lot of similar things. You have like interests, like goals in life, like opinions on basic life issues.
 
You have had like experiences in your background. Though there is some truth to the idiom that opposites attract, like-minded folks fare better together.
 
Furthermore, does he want to get married? If you want to be married and your dreamboat isn’t interested, don’t waste your time.
 
Remember, women fall in love and get married. Men decide to get married and then look for a wife. Note the difference in order. So if a guy says he’s not looking for anything serious, take his words seriously. If he’s not going in your direction, get off the bus and wait for the right one.
 
2. Does this man want you? Is he pursuing you? The man who is right for you will pursue you, and God’s hand in the relationship will be clear. No guessing, no fleeces, no dead ends.
 
Scripture says: “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord” (Proverbs 18:22).
 
Note -who finds whom? THE MAN FINDS THE WIFE. From the beginning of time, God has transported men and women across the world in order to put them together.
 
At the RIGHT TIME, He will bring that man on the scene and he will find you.. In God’s perfect design, the man is the one who recognizes his mate. Adam had no problem recognizing that Eve was his missing rib. You do not need to strategically place yourself anywhere. You don’t have to help a guy out because he’s shy!
 
Men will do whatever they have to do to get what they truly want. The man in your life should recognize you as the pearl of great price in his life and be willing to do whatever he must in order to gain your hand. If he is passive about gaining your affections, take it as a sign that he is not interested.
 
Many a woman’s mother has suggested that it is a good idea to marry a man who loves you more than you love him. As cold as that sounds, it actually might be scriptural if you stop to think about it: “We love him because he first loved us” (1 John 4:19). Until then, take the ultimate chill pill . You don’t need a bunch of men in your life to make you feel all right about yourself.
 
You need only one man – your man, the one God has selected to select you. And trust me, the right man at the wrong time can be just as awful as the wrong man at any time. So trust God’s timing in this. He is the ultimate matchmaker. Relax, sit pretty and allow yourself to be found. Again – WAIT until the man voices his intentions. He should take the lead in establishing the relationship. You may have an inkling that he is the one, but God will use the man to set the tone of the relationship. Allow him the opportunity to woo you – this is your first act of submission. Jesus set the standard for all men to follow. They should love us first. And they should lead the relationship.
 
3. The man in your life should not desire to move into your house, only into your heart . A man who prepares for your future has made his intentions clear. A man who is husband material has the means to take care of a wife. He is a responsible human being who understands he needs to have something to offer. In short, a man should have the means to be a suitable lover for you.
 
4. Check out his buddies. Everyone knows birds of the same feather flock together, yet most women fail to see the connection between a man and his friends. A man’s pals tell you a lot about the person that you haven’t seen yet. They reveal things about the guy’s character that might be hidden when he is on good behavior. Everyone knows how to put his best foot forward. Don’t stay focused on the foot, check out the rest of the body!
 
5. Check out his relationship with his mother. How does he treat her? This is your preview of how he will treat you. There are lots of men who, because of a negative relationship with their mothers, really don’t like women, yet say they do. Unresolved issues between mother and son continue between husband and wife.
 
6. Remember that a man’s family reveals the cloth from which he’s cut. Take note and decide whether you want your future with the man in your life to look like his present family situation.
 
7. Check out the patterns of his life. Do you see repeated cycles of drama in his personal kingdom? Broken relationships? Problems in making commitments –including the job market? Mood swings? Is a problem always someone else’s fault? Does he embrace responsibility or shirk it? Does he keep his promises? Is he a man of good reputation? Remember all garments look wonderful hanging in the store, but with wear, some begin to unravel. Give yourself time and space to check out the man in your life. Time will always reveal whether or not he is made of the right stuff.
 
8. Does this man have a vision for his life? Is he running with that vision? Remember, God decided Adam needed help once Adam got busy DOING his assignment. As we saw Adam, a man doesn’t need help until he is busy doing what he was created and called to do. Is the man in your life guided by sense of destiny and purpose, or does he just allow life to happen around him? A man who is not certain of his mission can be a most miserable person – and you’ll be miserable too if you know where YOU want to go in life.
 
A man who has vision is not intimidated by a woman whose mission statement is clear. He will be your best ally, cheerleader and assistant because he wants you both to make it! A man who cannot be supportive of your achievements because he is floundering in a sea of uncertainty over his own life is not a healthy partner to have and to hold forever.
 
Creating dependencies or feelings of obligation is not the way to get the best out of your man. Somewhere along the way, he will resent you and flee from the smothering burden of obligation he associates you with. You want a man who is firmly anchored in his identity in Christ. Remember, we are looking for a man who will be priest and leader of his home. His first instinct should be to want to cover you, redeem you, and provide for you. Your job is to decide if this is the man God has ordained for you to complement.
 
9. Complimentary. Do your talents and gifts complement his? Do his gifts, compliment yours? What about your temperaments? Do you see the two of you as an effective team capable of bringing blessing to the lives of those around you? Do your futures mesh? Can you coordinate your gifts in an attractive and effective way?
 
This is why knowing your purpose is so important. Make sure your hearts beat for mutual causes. When I go shopping I always consider the fabric, the fit and what I already have in my closet. Will my next purchase be a complimentary addition to what I already have? If I find that I am going to have to buy shoes and matching accessories to go with a new outfit, I leave it right on the rack. It is too expensive a proposition. If the man you meet makes you feel that you need to completely reinvent yourself, something is wrong.
 
This is where I ask you to consider the relationship in terms of cost. Is this relationship expensive spiritually, emotional or physically? Does your longing for a mate make you willing to forfeit who you are in the process? Or does he see you as the gift that you are? The man in your life should consider you a rare find, a priceless jewel-because of you he is getting ready to get blessed big-time! Any relationship that causes you to feel unworthy, unlovely, unacceptable, undesirable or that you have to work for love, is too expensive!
 
God has called the man to cover, protect and provide not only materially for a woman, but emotionally and spiritually as well. You should be richer in mind, body and spirit for your union with the man of your dreams. The man in your life should make rich deposits into your heart and spirit, not withdrawals.
 
10. Does he have a healthy love and acceptance of himself? Make sure the man in your life has taken time to heal from past relationships and has made peace with himself. How he cares for himself is how he will care for you.  A man’s relationship with God is crucial here. His love for himself will only be as strong as his love for God. This is not something that you can impart. You cannot be his savior or teacher. That is out of spiritual order. In his rightful place as your personal priest, he should be leading you to a richer relationship with Christ.
 
If he is causing you to compromise your faith and destabilize your walk, if he is leading you into sexual sin or causing you to be distracted from your commitment to God, the relationship is too expensive. Offending the Lover of your soul, who promises you eternal love, is too high a fare to pay for a ride that has a limited run. If you and your man can’t soar in the Spirit, when the force of your love for another is tested by the pull or gravity of the world, your union will not be able to survive.
 
So you decide. How much is your life worth? How much is your love worth? You will be able to accept only what you believe you deserve. God himself calculated the worth of your love and decided it was worth His life. He now pledges you His love for eternity. Yes, Jesus sets the example for all others to follow when He paid a ransom for His bride. Should you expect less from a mortal man? Throughout the Biblical age, men were willing to pay the cost for what they truly desired. The truth of the matter is everyone knows that anything worth having, costs and no one gets a ride in this life for free.
 
Our prayer:

Dear Heavenly Father God,

I confess that I have not always been as careful as I should’ve been with my heart. From time to time, my desire for love has caused me to leave my heart in the wrong hands. I now commit my heart into Your hands for safekeeping. Please help me to stop being so impulsive with what you deem so precious. As I learn to celebrate Your love for me, let me learn from Your example what a bridegroom should really be like. Help me to never settle for less than what you desire for me. As I embrace You as the Lover of my soul, keep my affections in the haven of Your own heart. As I rest in Your love, make me more discriminating of those who approach me.

I ask that You take over this area of my life. Keep me from those You know would hurt my heart. I invite You to set a hedge around me and keep me from all who would draw me into unfruitful relationships until the day you present me to the mate that You have selected for me. Grant me the discernment to recognize him as he recognizes me. Cleanse me from the temptation to typecast the men I meet according to what I see. Help me to trust in Your knowledge and lean not on my own understanding. I know that You know what is best for me; therefore I yield to Your choice. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.
 
Ladies this is something you should definitely share with a friend, whether you are single or married… It is something to think about, When you ask is “He” the one!

Thoughts and Prayers

I do my best praying and thinking in the shower. Depending on my day, I take a shower in the morning and one at night. Tonight after working out, I started thinking about God and why things are the way they are. Let me see if I can word this..

There’s a particular situation that I absolutely do not understand. Most of what I don’t understand are the feelings that I have. Do we actually have control over our feelings though? Which is probably the main problem. I am a control freak. I can’t do anything about the situation and it’s in the past. It hurts and makes me sad. All I have are the make-me-want-to-vomit feelings. Literally sick to my stomach. WHY? I don’t want to. I want to not care. Yet I do. A lot.

In the shower I started thinking, that’s your problem. HELLO! You’re a control freak. You need to let go and let God. Only, where and how do you begin? How do you change the pattern? Which lead me to thinking, why didn’t God make it easy? On the flip side, if he made us all perfect, what would the point of everything be? Everything as in, life, Jesus dying for us.. Why can’t we all just be happy and healthy and worship Him? That probably sounds really stupid but that was really my thought process. Can you tell that even when I’m praying I seem to get side-tracked?

I’m not sure if it’s my age or what, but I’ve started feeling ..empty. I think maybe that’s the best way to word my feelings. I’ve started to realize that just praying is not cutting it. I’ve actually read a few blogs in particular (Bloom, The Little Things We Do, and Butler: Party of 2)  that made me think, wow they are so into their relationship with God and you can tell. That’s definitely something that just praying is not doing for me. I downloaded the YouVersion Bible App that Kerri mentioned in her post. I think this should help me tremendously. I think that daily devotion is a good start for me.  It’s not fair for me to ask God to bless me with all these things that I want in the future (husband, family, etc) and only interact with Him through prayer. I figure I have absolutely nothing to lose. I mean, I want to feel joy too! That’s the one I am starting with – A Jolt of Joy. There are several others that caught my eye, but I think for now I need to stick to doing just one.

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Some of my oldest and dearest friends! Paige, me, Megan and Grace. This was taken at a restaurant in 2003. We were such babies!! I’m the only one out of this bunch that doesn’t have a family. Is that weird?

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My friends Kory, Mollie and me at the Braves game. Circa 2006 I believe. I just found out last night that Mollie is prego with her first! So happy for her. Actually, Kory and his gf are prego too! I’m glad I’m not in those shoes! haha

Vacation Bug

It’s safe to say that the vacation bug has officially hit me. Only, the vacation I’m planning isn’t until October. What can I say, I like to know details. See, it’s kind of a big deal. It will be my 30th birthday! My bestie’s birthday is the day before mine so we are going on vacation together. Since I’m all about knocking things off my bucket list, we haven’t really decided on where to go yet. There are so many things to factor in! Do we want to rent a place, or stay in a hotel? How many people are going with us? Right now, we are thinking about 3 possible vaction locations..

Virgin Islands – St. Croix

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Cancun, Mexico

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or go on a cruise

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Honestly, you can pretty much put me in sand and water and I’ll be happy! I’m a little nervous about the cruise idea – they haven’t had a good rep the last couple of years. I’m hoping we can take advantage of a free place in Mexico. Either way, I’m  so excited!!

Coasters

For Christmas I was trying to figure out what to make for my friends. I knew I was making an assortment of cookies, but I wanted something else. Naturally I turned to Pinterest to figure out what to make. I finally decided on making coasters after pinning this. I ran into a little problem though. Since it was Christmas time, Hobby Lobby was out of the color stamp pad that I wanted, and I went to 6 different stores to try and find stamps that were big enough. Finally I turned to Amazon and just ordered them. After Christmas passed I wasn’t really interested in them anymore. A few weeks ago I decided to finally make them. They turned out so well!! The guys in my office actually want some!

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me (left) and my bestie – 2005! I miss that body haha

Vday

Apparently I talk a lot about wanting to find The One. Even to people I hardly know.. Yesterday, this was delivered to my office.

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along with this super sweet card..

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Day. Made.

Off to go get my 2nd treatement for tattoo removal. Say a prayer!

Sweet Proposal – Vote For My Friend

Tonight I was uploading a picture from the weekend on Facebook when I saw that a guy I’ve known for several years show up in my news feed. I met Justin through a friend of a friend around 2005-2006. Justin is an amazing person. I have always admired him. Not only is he very easy on the eyes, but his outspoken love for God makes him that much more attractive. Any one that meets him can tell he’s not your average Joe. We used to call him Crest because of his Ryan Seacrest looks and that mega watt smile.

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Any way, the post I saw was him asking for people to vote for him and his fiance to win a contest for a 30K wedding on Lake Lanier. They made it to the final 3 out of 500 applicants. So, I’m asking that you register and vote for them. You can vote one time a day and voting ends January 31, 2013.

Check out his proposal video.

 

To vote for them, click HERE.

Trouble Trouble Trouble

This week has been interesting, to say the least.

A friend of mine confided in me thoughts of suicide. That alone was enough to stop me in my tracks. There were other things shared that day too. It’s a tough spot to be in. There are all these questions..what do I do, do I tell anyone, obviously I need to pray, how do I help, can I help, if I don’t tell anyone and this person doesn’t do anything about it how will I feel if somethings happens, do I get parents involved? The only solution I have come up with is to be there, and to say prayers.

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Dealing with my dad’s stuff is never fun. It’s even less fun when my sister calls me at work yelling because she isn’t smart enough can’t figure out what to do in a particular situation. Very frustraiting because #1 I am trying to work #2 yelling is NOT going to help. Which is why…..

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I sent that to Sara and Ashley yesterday. Sara’s response was “That’s how {insert her last name}’s see it!! You ARE family! Ashley’s response was “Awe! Thanks for being my sis!” 🙂

Earlier in the month I text Sara’s mom to tell her and her husband thank you for my Christmas gifts. I received the sweetest text. My heart literally smiled.

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I am SO blessed to have them in my life!!!

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Friday Funnies

1. My friend Amber and I were texting back and forth earlier this week. I had asked her what a good hot tea was from Starbucks, since I was feeling bad. She told me two teas to try so I asked which one she thought would be better. She replied with, “They are waaay different. The zen refresh would prob be the best for you being dick.” then, “hahahahahah sick!!!” oh man, auto correct, you never fail to make me laugh.

2. My friend Sara and I have the same sense of humor. I sent her this picture of ke$ha from a magazine earlier this week. I said, “thhhhhhats why she says ‘I like your beard’ at the end of that song!” I told her I thought we could be friends with ke$ha because of her carefree attitude and sweet rap style. I told her that she could be $ara. She said her name does look pretty gangsta like that, so I told her that my real name was gangasta enough. She did find a way to incorporate a symbol though. Pretty funny. (Maybe this is one of those things that you either have to be there for, or know us?)

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Maybe next week will be funnier!

Friday Funnies

I decided to post each Friday things that made me laugh over the week. Hopefully I can start this and keep it up, at least for a year? We shall see!

On Monday I got The Daily Tay’s post, Resolutions You Should Have Made. She did a celebrity version and the one that cracked me up was Taylor Swift. Taylor, you should make a resolution to steal Kanye’s baby the second the doctor places it in his arms and proclaim, this belongs to Ray J!

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2. Monday my friend Sara and I went ice skating. We were trying to figure out if we wanted to watch the football game before ice skating, or if we wanted to watch the game one night, and the next night go skating. As we were texting back and forth she asked who was playing. I told her UGA. She wrote me back and told me that they had already played. OHHHHHH YEAHHHH… No wonder the guys looked at me funny when I told two of them they should pull for UGA since they both went to school there. …hahahahahaha  I told them about it the next day and they both said they thought I was being sarcastic. LOL

3. After ice skating we hit up a bar to watch the football game. When we were leaving down town we kept running into roads where no left turn was allowed. We needed to turn left to get back to our side of town. We finally approached a road that let us turn left. So we needed to make another left to head in the right direction. The next intersection we approached said “NO LEFT TURN”. I started laughing at the circumstance and told Sara the sign might as well have said, “HAHA Tricked ya!”

4. While driving in the ghetto since we were lost, we approached a gas station. There were several signs on a fence along the wall to the building. I started laughing and Sara asked what I was laughing at. I told her, “that sign says ‘NECKS'”. So random. The closer we got to the sign I saw that it actually said V Necks but the “V” was above the word necks so I didn’t see it. Again, we were about to pee our pants from laughing.

5. Pinterest always makes me laugh..

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I guess that’s why I don’t own a LV?

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hahahahahaa YESSSSS!!

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Do Me

I hope everyone had a fantastic New Years!

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You know how you always hear people throw around the word Resolution towards the end of the year, and how 9 times out of 10 its to lose weight? Well, I’m a little different. Sure, I could lose 10-15lbs.. I {try} to become a better version of myself daily. Some times I fail miserably and some times I succeed. Luckily each day is a new beginning and all you can do is put your best foot forward.

Those of you that have followed my old blog and this one know that I’ve had my share of ups and downs. This past year was definitely a roller coaster . Over my 29 years on Earth I have learned a lot about myself; my faith, my heart, and my mind. I try to live in the moment because you only get one chance at this thing called life, and when it’s over, GAME OVER.

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With that being said, this year’s resolution is to not only be a better me, but for me to DO me. Do what I want. Accomplish my goals. Don’t let any thing or any one stand in my way. This is The Year of the Bucket List. I’m going to be in the front row with my hands in the air and hair blowing in the wind. Or my hair blowing in the wind while I scream and grasp on for dear life. All I can do is get on for the ride.

With the death of my dad came many emotions. I think maybe the greatest lessons I’ve (re)learned are:

1) hold on tight to those that I know without a shadow of a doubt love and cherish me, while showing them how much they mean to me; and

2) I am the only person that will have my best interests at heart.

I have some phenomenal friends that keep me grounded, and for that I am thankful. I am pretty lucky to also have a boss that is like a father figure to me and gives me the best advice and truly does look out for me. In the last few months I feel lucky enough to have two father figures at work. Sometimes we don’t get along, but we have become a little family. (This year will mark my 6th year). I feel very blessed to have friends that I can ask, “Will this choice take me down a path I will regret?” and they will give me the 100% truth. I’ve always felt closer to my friends than my family which is why I cherish them so much.

I think I may have gone off on a tangent… You get my point though. The whole idea behind a Bucket List is to live, experience, and have great stories to tell. That’s what I want {to continue} this year. I don’t see any one or any thing standing in my way, and that, my friends, is a wonderful feeling.

Here’s to 2013!

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Christmas

Hey guys! I hope everyone had a great Christmas! Mine was nice and relaxing. I baked a ton of goodies for a few friends and mostly relaxed. Here are the cookies I made.

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Soft almond sugar cookies via

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Pudding Cookies via

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White chocolate topped gingerbread cookies via

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Christmas meltaways via

For the BF I made whiskey salted caramels via

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Everyone loved the cookies and caramels! I took a few of each to work because I had a lot left over, even after I sampled each. One note on the pudding cookies – that recipe will make about 5-6 batches. I highly recommend either freezing half or cutting the recipe in half.

Along with all the baked goods the presents I got for each friend I decided to wrap with some good old Pinterest inspiration.

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Most of my packages looked like this..

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via I changed this version up by using brown paper packaging and red ribbon. The custom made initial cards turned out really cute!

On Friday the BF and I had our Christmas. The original plan was to meet up and exchange gifts and have dinner. He surprised me with a text earlier that day asking if I wanted to get a hotel room for the night. UM YES! YES I DO!! I met him at the hotel around 8 and he had champagne, my favorite flowers, and caramel truffles waiting for me. SO SWEET!!!! I was blown away. I’m one of those girls that loves romance and sweet gestures, so he definitely earned a ton of points with this one.

We exchanged gifts, ordered room service, had great conversation and even took advantage of the huge tub and shower. It was such a nice stay-cation. I am such a lucky girl!! So blessed.

Numerology

I saw this post on my friend Carly‘s blog and I thought I had to check it out.

Per the Numerology website, Numerology is the historic study of the relationship between names, birthdates, and numbers. In fact the word Numerology is derived from the word ‘numerus’ a Latin word for ‘number’ and the Greek word ‘logos’ meaning thought & word.

In Numerology, unlike Astrology or tarot, a person’s birth name as-well-as their birth-date have significant influences on their life path and personality. Calculating various influential traits of a person is a straight forward process.

I figured I’d give it a whirl. Low and behold, it was spot on!

Life Path Number: 7

The searcher and the seeker of the truth.

Life path 7’s have a clear and compelling sense of themself as a spiritual being. As a result, the life path 7 is devoted to investigations into the unknown, and finding the answers to the mysteries of life.

You may have noticed you are well-equipped to handle your task. You possess a fine mind; you are an analytical thinker, capable of great concentration and theoretical insight. You enjoy research, and putting the pieces of an intellectual puzzle together. Once you have enough pieces in place, you are capable of highly creative insight and practical solutions to problems.

Need Your Space?

You enjoy your solitude and prefer to work alone. You need time to contemplate your ideas without the intrusion of other people’s thoughts. You are a lone wolf, a person who lives by his own ideas and methods. As a result, close associations are difficult for you to form and keep, especially marriage. You need your space and privacy, which, when violated, can cause you great frustration and irritation.

Life Path 7 Is The Life Of The Party

When your life is balanced, however, you are both charming and attractive. You can be the life of a party, and enjoy performing before an audience. You enjoy displaying your wit and knowledge, which makes you attractive to others, especially the opposite sex. But you have distinct limits. While you are generous in social situations, sharing your attention and energy freely, you are keenly aware of the need to ‘come off stage’ and return to the solitude of your lair. You associate peace with the unobtrusive privacy of your world. Therefore, intimacy is difficult for you, because you guard your inner world like a mother lion does her cubs.

Don’t Be A Loner

All this privacy and aloneness can cause isolation and loneliness, however. You can be aware of an emptiness in your life, a part of you that yearns for company and close companionship that may be unsatisfied. If isolation is brought to the extreme, you can become cynical and suspicious. You can develop hidden, selfish motives, which people may sense and may cause them discomfort around you.

You must guard against becoming too withdrawn and independent, thus shutting out the love of others and keeping you from experiencing the true joy of friendship and close companionship. You must especially watch out for selfishness and egocentricity, thinking of yourself as the center of the universe, the only person who really matters. Social contact gives you perspective on yourself and on life, while too much isolation can make you too narrow and even shut off from the rest of the world.

Learn Balance

Secretly, you may feel jealous of the easy relationships formed by others; you may perceive others as less inhibited than you, or more free to express themselves. You may harshly criticize yourself for not being more gregarious, powerful, or capable of greater leadership. Your challenge in life is to maintain your independence without feeling isolated or ineffectual. You must hold fast to your unique view on the world, while at the same time being open to others and the knowledge they have to offer.

With your abilities to learn, analyze, seek out answer’s to life’s important questions, you have the potential for enormous growth and success in life. By the time you reach middle age, you will radiate refinement and wisdom. Pythagoras loved the seven for its great spiritual potential.

If you know me IRL, that’s scarily accurate so I tried out the Expression Calculator. Here is what it said about me..

Expression Number: 1

You are a natural leader, independant and individualistic.

You are extremely original, ambitious, and courageous. You employ new and unproven methods. You are an explorer and an innovator. Openness to too many peripheral influences limits and frustrates you. You are self-reliant, confident, and energetic.

You possess executive abilities and are most successful at owning or independently managing a business. You need the freedom to make your own decisions, based on your own ideas. You can be an astute politician. You also possess the ability to influence the opinions of your milieu.

The number 1 symbolizes the front-runner, pioneer, warrior, risk-taker, and daredevil. Generals, top politicians, successful businessmen, self-made millionaires, religious leaders, inventors, activists, and avant-garde artists are often born with a 1 Expression.

Strength and perseverance are central to your success. You must be willing to travel the frontiers of life, away from the beaten path. You possess a great reserve of willpower that must be directed at your goals. You do not give up, but relentlessly pursue your aims. You are quite opinionated. People tend to be inspired or repelled by your strong personality.

You have great powers of concentration and the ability to visualize your goals, thus making them more attainable. You stand up for your convictions and hold your ground. All of these abilities enhance your chances of success in life.

There is a tendency to be self-centered. You can be domineering and, in the extreme, a bully. You can be highly critical of others, complaining that people lack the industry or determination you possess. But this lack of understanding can alienate friends and family members from you. You must learn to control this tendency to maintain harmony in relationships. Once you are convinced of the inherent correctness of your ideas, you stubbornly – and sometimes rigidly – defend and propagate them. Avoid obstinacy and antagonism. You must cultivate balance, compassion, and perseverance. You easily assume the role of protector. You spring into action when leadership is needed.

Pride can be your downfall. You so powerfully identify with your goals and ambitions that you sometimes refuse to see a potential flaw or weakness in your well-laid plans. You possess strength and determination, which, when applied to any endeavor your are committed to, will lead you to great success in life.

Again, dead on. I even looked up people in my life, and theirs was accurate too! Cray!

Uncertainty

I think that when you are younger you have this idea that everything falls into place and its super cookie cutter perfect. Maybe that just comes with watching too many Disney movies. BOO Disney and their “fairytale endings”!

The last few months I have come to the uber realization that the idea of that is completely false. At least, so it seems. I suppose it is possible for some people, but generally speaking, I think it’s rare. I know nothing is easy unless you work at it, constantly work at it, and work hard.

My best friend is currently unhappy in her marriage. She literally married the greatest guy, ever. {Yes, she knows this} I guess in talking to her about things and trying to help her figure out the next step, I’ve realized that nothing in life is guaranteed. Just because you marry someone doesn’t mean that you will stay in love with them, or vice versa.

On the other end of the spectrum, one of my good friends and I were talking about a radio show here in the A earlier this week. They were discussing the highest combined sexual age of anyone you know. Which is pretty funny in itsself. I told her that her parents would be like the couples in their late 90s still doing it. She responded by telling me that she had a conversation with her mom over Thanksgiving. Her mom {whom I wish was my mom because she is the coolest} said that she truly thought her husband was her soul mate. She said, “I know it sounds stupid, but I truly think that. Who gets married after two weeks and 41 years later is still married and more in love than ever?”

Love and life are both so confusing. I guess that’s why its so important to have faith in God and prayer in your life.

Just a little thought for the day..

Halloween

Last year I didn’t dress up because I was out of town. My friend Sara and I were determined to dress up as loofahs for this year.

Inspiration:

I found that on Pinterest last year. Super cute right?

Here is Sara, with hers somewhat put together.

Of course as with any outfit, you need cute shoes. We decided that we were going to spray glitter spray into the loofahs so they look as though they’ve been soaped up. What goes with that? Well glitter shoes of course!

I bought these shoes from Target this past summer and I didn’t wear them as much as I thought I would. So I decided to use these to glitter. The left shoe is with one coat of modge podge and glitter. Clearly that wasn’t enought glitter. Sara and I ran to Target and bought some spray adhesive glue. This stuff is no joke. It is super sticky and it got every where. So I sprayed down a couple of sections at a time and poured more glitter on.

Super cute right? Sara’s are on the left and mine are on the right. Her loofah is pink and mine is purple. I knew I didn’t want purple shoes so this is what I came up with. She used a pair of old shoes, painted them with pink fabric paint and used pink glitter, instead of the opal-color I used.

Here are our outfits from Saturday night. Sara and her mom made us bubble headbands, which turned out super cute! We also used spray glitter to spray on the netting so we would look “wet” like a loofah! Oh and she also made a duck purse, bc of rubber ducky tub toys.

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Bachelorette

I was flipping thru the September issue of ELLE magazine and I came across an article on Bachelorette (the movie). Leslye Headland the writer and director was talking about the movie..

“There’s a checklist by which women should live their lives, so that they’re always defining themselves by what they don’t have.”

How true is that, seriously.

She also says.. “Female friendships are deep and complex, and the lengthy ones are submerged in this dark history. If you’ve been friends for 10 years, you’ve done some terrible shit to each other.”

Kirsten Dunst who plays Regan, agrees, “It’s the part of your friends you don’t want to see. That should be the tag line.”

So true. Have you seen the movie?

La La Land

My friend Laura decided to start a blog!

You may remember her from here..

Or not, because I never posted that pic. She’s funny, loves wine, she’s sarcastic, and is obsessed with MAC makeup. She’s cool in my book! SO, go read her blog here.

Fall Activities

I forgot to mention this in my last Fall post, but there are a ton of activities that I am really looking forward to doing this year with my friends! Somehow I’ve always managed to date losers and they never wanted to do fun stuff with me.. so I’m taking it upon myself to do them! You can only make yourself happy, am I right?

SO! I have a fall bucket list of things I want to do.

  1. go apple picking
  2. drink apple cider {how delicious does cherry apple cider sound!?}
  3. go to a corn maze
  4. pick a pumpkin from a pumpkin patch
  5. carve pumpkins with friends
  6. toast pumpkin seeds
  7. make my annual trip to Netherworld Haunted House
  8. go on a haunted tour of the Oakland Cemetery
  9. participate in the chomp n stomp

I’m sure there are many more but thats what I can think of! SO! EXCITED!

Virtue

I’ve talked about this before, but this question that Oprah asked Carrie Underwood has really stuck with me.

O: What word or virtue best describes what matters the most to you?

C: Love. If you love somebody, if you love people, if you love your surroundings, everything else, all that other stuff will happen naturally. If you love somebody you’re going to be honest with them. If you respect and love your surroundings, you’re going to treat them right. It’s all about loving people and just openness and acceptance and love.

SO. TRUE.

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