|February 22, 2013||Posted by V under change, cray, love||
Why is it that we, either as women or our generation, seem to be so eager to fall in love?
Some times I look back at all the men I said I love you to, and I think, “did I really?”. Perhaps it’s my ability to forget the past? As in, when someone is out of my life, I generally tend to forget about them. Think Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, if you will. I can easily do it with women, but have a little more difficulty when it comes to men. I have been trying to pinpoint something in my life that has made me this way, and yet I can’t seem to come up with anything. I don’t think it’s because my parents separated when I was little – we left him! I honestly have no idea what it is about me that makes it so easy for me to “move on”. I put that in quotes because even if I haven’t fully moved on, I still think about that person from time to time. Never usually contact that person though. Is it just a strong will? I think maybe it’s because I am very black and white on my views? Either way, I feel like it’s something I need to work on.
I think maybe we are so eager to be in love because of Disney. Ha! Kind of serious about that though. At the end of every Disney story, the guy and girl end up together and live happily ever after. We are taught that’s how it is.
Is love “like that” even real? Yes I did question that. Actually while I was talking to my bestie, she asked that. I know exactly where she’s coming from though, and I believe it is. Like I’ve stated before, my other bestie’s parents met and 2 weeks later they were married. 30 something years later, they are still married and more in love than ever. So, yes, I think that it can happen. All these people can’t just be making it up, right?
I know that it takes time. I do. If you think about it, it’s actually super hard to meet The One. You may love their personality but you may not have the same beliefs. Or you could have the same beliefs but not communicate well. You may have everything on the same level that meshes well together, but not priorities in life. It literally takes a perfect blend to be able to make it, I think.
As a side note – or random note – I was having a conversation with some friends at a bar a few weeks ago. One of the guys said, “You don’t have sex with someone because of their looks. You have sex with someone because of their brain”. One of my friends disagreed with that statement. I however, totally agree. Sure you may initially have sex with someone because of their looks. But, their good looks aren’t going to keep you. Looks fade anyway. If they are bad in bed – which is all brain work – then you’ll leave. It’s so true! You keep dating someone because of their brain. Crazy that I’ve never thought about it like that before.
Ohhhh Atlanta, why do you have to be so Russian Rouletteish when it comes to men? #fail
Such a deep post for a Friday night. Oopsies!