|January 13, 2014||Posted by V under advice, change, dating, love, marriage|
It’s true what they say, the older you get the wiser you become.
Some people choose to stick by decisions they’ve made, being unhappy, than to be happy. I understand to an extent because there are so many unknowns that can terrify you. I think that if you have faith that everything will work out, it will. Taking that leap however, is the first step. It’s not an easy one, but I don’t think it should be.
I know of too many couples that are together “for the kids” or because getting married is “the next step”. Both of which, I do not agree with.
Kids are much more perceptive than adults realize. They pick up on things. They mimic things. If you have an unhappy marriage, your kids pick up on tiny details and they know. Not only do they know, they think the relationship you have with your partner is normal. Which is not normal. I personally believe that it’s better for kids to see each parent happy, even if they are apart.
I think there are many factors as to why people aren’t in happy marriage. Mostly, I think they settled and/or they didn’t wait to marry the right person for them.
I found out recently that an acquaintance of mine drinks half a bottle of Jack a night because that’s the only way she knows how to handle her life. She is young, beautiful, smart and extremely unhappy. On the outside she has the picture perfect family. Finding out this information made me sad for her. Why would you do that to yourself? Why would you allow yourself to be unhappy for the rest of your life?
As ready as I think I am to get married, God is telling me that I’m not. For me, it’s never been about getting married, but about finding that person that challenges me, loves me unconditionally, thinks the world of me and vice versa.
Remember when I posted about Eric & Jessie? I watched their wedding episode. It was nothing short of amazing. They are clearly in love with each other. I love that she became so overwhelmed with emotion when she opened her wedding present from Eric. That to me, is what real love is all about. The way they are together.